I have imaginary children. As much as I say that I want sons, my imaginary children are always girls. And I always picture my relationship with them beginning somewhere around six, despite the fact that I am aware that the mother-daughter relationship begins much sooner.
After teaching teenagers for a decade, and studying their behaviors closely, I have often pondered, what is the one quality that I would like my imaginary daughters to possess?
Confidence boosted by an unfaltering self-esteem.
No, I am not talking about cockiness, arrogance, “I’m a princess and I deserve the world, especially when I grow up to be a model” attitudes, but the type of confidence to which Emerson refers when he says:
“Trust thyself: every heart vibrates to that iron string. Accept the place the divine providence has found for you, the society of your contemporaries, the connection of events. Great men have always done so, and confided themselves childlike to the genius of their age, betraying their perception that the Eternal was stirring at their heart, working through their hands, predominating in all their being. And we are now men, and must accept in the highest mind the same transcendent destiny; and not pinched in a corner, not cowards fleeing before a revolution, but redeemers and benefactors, pious aspirants to be noble clay under the Almighty effort let us advance on Chaos and the Dark“.
I get it. The dude’s deep, but it’s absolutely necessary to develop this quality for personal success in all areas of life.
Let’s apply the danger of doubt to what we do at Shoreline CrossFit:
Snatching: if you doubt for ONE SECOND that you will not catch that bar overhead, you will not pull it correctly from the first erg of energy that you apply to that barbell.
Any given WOD: if you doubt the fact that you can beat the person beside you, you will never beat them.
Box jumps: if you think you’re going to trip, you will trip.
Our doubts and fears will “trip” us up so badly in life that we will find ourselves actually believing that we do not have it in our power to do things that we can actually do.
The first doubt you have that remains undismissed, will, inevitably, cause you to fail.
Stop doubting, and start trusting.